Desperate Play

There is a quiet, simple joy that comes with knowing that within us there is an antidote to all ailments. I know, that sounds like a preposterous assertion. But, think about it for a moment. Plausibly, the Universe has created a balancing agent, that restores equanimity, and encourages creativity (expansion) to go on, impervious to the slings and arrows of Life. Like everything else, we are composed of the stuff of the Universe, and thus contain within us, the power to go beyond where we have been before, and actualize wholeness wherever we are.

I forget what I know, much more often than I remember. I guess the compelling nature of human life baffles me just enough that I get distracted. I begin to believe this is all there is. In this kind of delusional moment, I forget where I’m from, and where I’ve always been. My earthly endeavors begin to take on a gravity of their own, and I fall sway to a weight that goes with the illusion. I lose some perspective while taking on another vantage point. Then, I am susceptible. I think I am bounded by the gravitational pull of the conventions of this time and place.

I labor under the weight of this place’s expectations. I get torn by the feelings that I am supposed to be one kind of man, while I am another. I now have an invisible disability that exacerbates the ones that can be seen. All of this adds weight, enhances the pull of gravity, and compresses my attitude, leaving me a lump of human protoplasm distorted and quivering. It isn’t fun to be so burdened. Worse yet, it isn’t even near the best I can do. I suffer from the potential I seldom get to use.

Firmly, under the sway of earthly and societal delusion, I trudge through life, like a good soldier, or a good cog in the system, forgetting what is within me. I even have trouble admitting to myself that I might be depressed. All I can muster is a metaphor of journeying through an arid landscape. I have begun to despair. The larger life that had really spawned me, has been reduced into a desiccated incoherent lump. I am thoroughly human, a victim of existence, a forgotten spark of the primeval light.

I am desperate. I know I am here because there is more to the story. I just don’t remember what. There are lots of stories. Divinity, if you believed everything said, is everywhere. But re-experiencing it is another matter. Stories, even the genuine experiences of others, don’t help. My desperation, is not for an uplifting story, its for a visceral unfolding. I want to be part of the flow.

Desperation, the emptiness of some aspects of life, has driven me back. I am turning once more to an old friend of mine. Oddly, this old friend is me. In some form of youthful instinctiveness, the old childish me used to perform powerful rituals by merely playing. I think I became human, the Divine child taking form, through play.

I had to get thoroughly lost to find myself. It took years. Now, I’m coming to a new place. I am once again lost at sea, bobbing in the great ocean. But now, I’m scarred, I’ve worn the rigid mantle, become the quintessential, followed the herd, felt the blistering of aloneness, and become old. Play frees me from the predictable me. I get to be what I don’t know. I am becoming again, only this time, there is no one, but myself, to guide me. I don’t have to to make sure I stay between the lines, be scored against anyone, or told what to do. When I begin to think of the things that assail me, like strange playground equipment, I get excited not depressed. Challenges are opportunities. Life looks and feels different.

Suddenly, falling and failing, has a new complexion. I’m beginning to have a more satisfied attitude. One that looks forward to what the day brings. I haven’t fully integrated this new/old awareness or attitude yet. I’m still in the phase of not completely believing it. Play is altering the way I’m encountering things now, and I’m enthralled with the experiential learning that it is provoking.

Maybe the aridity of some facets of my life drove me to re-discover what I already knew. I’m Lucky, that could be possible. But, I think that play is an aspect of the creativity of the Universe — that is within each and every one of us.

Play with that idea for a while.

 

  

Oasis Moments

The bleakness can be overwhelming. Life can be like trudging through a dessert. Out beyond hope is an endless procession of dull and almost lifeless moments. One keeps moving, because, that is all one knows how to do, because, the life-force keeps beating one’s heart, because, some animal part of one’s organism refuses to stop. Soon one’s internal landscape is as arid as the place one occupies.

The journey through life sometimes means going through these kinds of badlands. They zap and tax one’s soul. Without this kind of darkness, the garden contains nothing resembling light. Through some kind of other-worldly alchemy the darkness and light are linked, and bleak aridity coexists with the profusion of life. It is one of the glorious hardships of life. Poverty insures some forms of wealth. As does wealth insure some forms of poverty. The flow is paradoxical, blowing all means of cover. No one seems to know why we humans are party to this kind of sometimes macabre, always miraculous, dance form.

Anyway, this Slow Lane is not really about this form of the miraculousness of life, Rather, it is about how the rains sometimes come to the dessert unexpectedly. There are, what I call, oasis moments. Times when the waters of life fall from the heavens. Periods where everything glistens — and blessing permeates and refreshes the air. Such moments renew, and lend hope to hopeless endeavors.

The metaphors of miraculous and Divine intervention shine in most of our memories. The parting of the Red Sea, the locusts saving the Mormons, the coming of the just-in-time, the release of Nelson Mandela. These moments bear the stamp of the miraculous, but they are so big, so historical, that they threaten to eclipse the moments of such grace in our regular salt of the earth lives.

I don’t know about you, and your life, but I have danced in the rain of unexpected and surprising help. My pedestrian, unremarkable life has stumbled upon eras of grace, little times when someone has opened their heart, or their mind, and given me the boosting benefit of the doubt. Irrationality happens — in a good way. Unbelievably, the Sun shines with new energy.

I don’t know how this happens, but somehow it does — old lovers find each other, the desperately broken are sheltered, the abandoned are embraced, the hopeless cause discovers another carrying shoulder — and wEEE all carry on, despite the darkness. Oasis moments come right out of the darkness. How does that happen? What does it mean?

It isn’t given to we humans to know. But, we sometimes benefit anyway. I suppose I’m writing this because I have noticed. I can’t explain what has shaken my cynicism. I know I’ve done too little, to deserve such moments, and they sometimes come anyway.

This community is one for me. I have someplace to go with my wonder. It is a gift that goes way beyond whatever I thought I was cultivating. An oasis sprang up to meet my cry. Each of you is a component of someone’s oasis, mine for sure, but likely someone you may not even know. The oasis moment is us. How remarkable, and how perfect!